Dads, we need to talk.
If you are anything at all like me, you are awesome at pointing out the shortcomings (sins) in your kids but terrible at noticing them in yourself. Could it be that our pious attitude of "I'm right and you are wrong" is creating a severe rift between us and our kids.
Because, let's face it. They know we sin. We know we sin. In fact, Jesus (in Matthew 7:11) comes right out and calls earthly fathers "evil." So what good does it do if we pretend that we don't sin?
What this attitude creates in our home is a legalistic set of rules to follow...typically ones that our kids can never measure up to. It communicates that we have arrived and that our kids are still a (unsatisfactory) work in progress.
Instead, we must create an environment where we can all acknowledge our shortcomings and agree that we all need a savior to rescue us from ourselves and our sin.
Mark Driscoll of Mars Hill Church in Seattle sums it up perfectly in this brief clip...
How often do my wife and kids hear me say these words?
"It's my fault."
"I was wrong."
"Please forgive me."
Not near enough. Not near enough...